I think it’s time to admit that I have been in a troubled relationship for a very long time.
With Fear.
But it was a toxic relationship. Fear kept me awake some nights, tears on my face and soaking my pillows. Some nights, Fear filled my mind with lies to cling to, drawing me closer into its web. Playing on the insecurities I had in myself, I only believed what was presented before me by fear.
By day, Fear had me present a falsely confident image, using my perfectionism and achievements to mask the abuse I was enduring. Beating myself whenever I felt I had failed myself and therefore failed the world, I hid my truth. I continued to swallow lies like pills, poisoning my mind and my body.
Fear always left me alone; closed from the world, broken, hurt, bitter, angry. I spent days, weeks, months arguing and fighting, only to be backed into a corner one more time, eyes shut against its brash angry face laughing, spitting, burning before me. Fear was controlling and abusive, but it was all that I knew. Even when I had few moments to escape its shadow, it was only a moment to shine in the spotlight before Fear shut the lights out and beat me up in the dark about the very things that I did wrong, pointing out more flaws than I knew to count.
But then, one day, someone introduced me to a new friend, someone I had heard about, but was finally meeting for the first time.
Faith.
Faith presented a new world to me; that I was better than what Fear made me believe I was. That I had a freedom extended toward me to be the person that I was always called to be. That I was created to do great things; that my gifts could actually make a difference in the world around me and I could walk in confidence that I was handsome, talented and gifted.
I was torn; I wanted to believe that I could do it. But Fear had such a hold over my mind and my heart that I could feel fear’s icy-cold fingers clutching my heart and whisper more lies into my heart. But deep inside, a warrior was awaken and I fought to escape.
For several years, I engaged in an affair; spending the days with Faith, but crawling back to Fear in shame and defeat by night. Soon, it was too much to balance the two separate lives and, for awhile, Fear become prominent in my life again. But, Faith was always there, calling to me, beckoning to me. Hysterical with worry over Fear, I ignored Faith with everything that I could.
But I couldn’t ignore what I had learned from Faith. Faith’s lessons were so soaked into my heart, that moments would occur when it spilled out, like a bubbling pot of water on the stove, splashing into my life. It encouraged me, gave me positive words that my drowning heart clung to like a lifesaver.
At last, I was ready. I knew I could do it. I broke up with Fear.
I felt so free! I wanted to run and jump and sing and dance and fly. I smiled all day; I had been reborn and was breathing for the first time in my life. The world was so much more clear. Faith had my hand.
But not my heart…not yet.
Of course, Fear came knocking and calling for a few months following the breakup, whimpering, whispering the same lies in a withering voice, but I simply shut the door, replying and replaying the comforting words Faith had told me over and over again.
But one day, I reached a rather vulnerable moment. I had not kept in constant contact with Faith and Fear slipped in, disguised as Faith. Fooled, confused and in deep need of comfort, I welcomed Fear back in. For a while, I remained close to Fear disguised as Faith, until real Faith stepped in.
I was shocked and hurt; Fear had come back into my life and caused me to revert to my old ways! My life was changed for the worse. I was broken. Surely, after what I had done, Faith would not take me back! Fear had won!
Faith, however, ensured me that it would not leave me; in fact, it rewarded me beyond what I deserved – just for returning.
So, with that, I turned my back to Fear and returned to Faith.
I’d like to say that Faith and I lived happily ever after, but of course, like the Big Bad Wolf in The Three Little Pigs, Fear is always creeping around, sniffing at the door. But, with Faith by my side, I’m stronger than Fear, able to, with Faith’s power, to overcome.
So Fear, if you see this, please know that I have moved on. By telling the world the truth about you, I can finally stand upon what I knew is mine and leave you far behind.
I don’t wish you well!